How to build resilience in midlife by the New York Times is, I think, an incredibly interesting article. In Midlife it is often assumed that we have worked out a lot of the answers navigating this life. Resilience at any stage of life is an incredibly important tool to have. I believe its something we should be teaching children in our schools, given the world we are leaving the kids ……. resilience and empathy would be the top of my list.
That resilience is a muscle that can be built or strengthened should come as a comfort for those who need a little more of it as we age.
This is an extract from the New York Times…hit the link for the full article
“Much of the scientific research on resilience — our ability to bounce back from adversity — has focused on how to build resilience in children. But what about the grown-ups?
While resilience is an essential skill for healthy childhood development, science shows that adults also can take steps to boost resilience in middle age, which is often the time we need it most. Midlife can bring all kinds of stressors, including divorce, the death of a parent, career setbacks and retirement worries, yet many of us don’t build the coping skills we need to meet these challenges.
The good news is that some of the qualities of middle age — a better ability to regulate emotions, perspective gained from life experiences and concern for future generations — may give older people an advantage over the young when it comes to developing resilience, said Adam Grant, a management and psychology professor at the Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania.
“There is a naturally learnable set of behaviors that contribute to resilience,” said Dr. Grant, who, with Sheryl Sandberg, the chief operating officer of Facebook, wrote the book “Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience and Finding Joy.” “Those are the behaviors that we gravitate to more and more as we age.”
Scientists who study stress and resilience say it’s important to think of resilience as an emotional muscle that can be strengthened at any time. While it’s useful to build up resilience before a big or small crisis hits, there still are active steps you can take during and after a crisis to speed your emotional recovery.”
Illustration by Sarah Williamson for The New York Times.
Share this Post